I find that as I get older, the idea of honoring/respecting ones parents has become something old people used to do. Not to say that us old people didn’t have times in our lives that we were disrespectful. I can’t count the number of times that I have heard kids tell their parents that they hate them.
It generally starts once kids start school, and they get “socialized”. Little kids hear someone say it, and the next time they don’t get their way at home it’s “I hate you”. They don’t of course because most of them don’t even know what hate really is. However, as the kids get older, it becomes more serious. Sometimes it’s still just frustration because they didn’t get their way; but sometimes they harbor real anger, and they mean what they say. As a parent, I can tell you it hurts to hear at any stage.
Hatred is not the only way to dishonor our parents. As we all get older, adults often will laugh at something their parents did in earnest, but the adult child thinks the parent is goofy. There are lots of ways that a child, whether youngster, teen or adult that we dishonor parents.
Sometimes as the parents get to their later years, they are mistreated mentally or physically; or even worse, they are abandoned. These are usually all intentional and very cruel, even criminal.
In the Old Testament, God was very strict and stern when dealing with the dishonorable child. God took honoring your parents seriously enough that he made it one of the commandments. God dealt harshly with those in the Old Testament, and I would bet he still does today.
I will admit that as we get older, we get tougher to deal with, and we can become a burden on our families. I’m only 60, but I require a lot of attention because of my health. Other seniors get cranky in their old age, for a variety of reasons; they could be sick, lonely or just feel unloved. But no matter the reason, we need to show patience and love for our parents, always!
And remember the 11th commandment, the one Jesus gave us at the Last Supper, John 13:34-35 34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” It applies to all of us, to love one another, be it parent, child, sibling, friend or stranger.
I love you all, now and forever!